Sorry it’s been so long since we last spoke. I’m going to start to write more on here every week. Nothing preplanned just situations, feelings, thoughts, and growing pains that I might go through or see players go through. The whole point of this blog was to give you guys another perspective of Coach Ben and Teer Basketball Training. Through a different lens, and to give you a deeper understanding of maybe my thought process, challenges, or advice.
This week has been a very different week. For anyone that doesn’t know, I’m 24 years old. Most people assume that because I own an international business and global training brand that I’m much more older than I really am. The truth of the matter is that I understand that I’m still learning and growing up every single day. I don’t claim to have it all figured out and I definitely don’t know if all, even though sometimes it comes across that I might think I do. I’m young.
Another thing that I realized is I’m a BIG people pleaser. It’s the reason why my business has grown so much in just a year that I’ve been open. I go above and beyond to help athletes. To make sure I respect them, build a relationship, let them know that I believe in them, and I’m here for them. Things that are way outside of just teaching them skills and techniques.
But there is also a weakness in being a people pleaser. When people turn their back on you, talk bad about you, do you wrong, it hurts. And this week something along that line happened to me. I sat back very confused, because I had done everything like normal. I had given my all and it just didn’t work out…
So how does Coach Ben respond? How do I deal with a bad day? I’ll tell you…
Yesterday I put myself in a place of absolute certainty. I was so grateful of the athletes that I had encountered. I was so blessed to think about the athletes that I’m helping right now, every single day. I’m so thankful for the learning opportunity this week has given me. It’s a different perspective. Instead of me focusing on all of the things outside of my control and everything negative, I put myself in a different mindset and chose to focus on the things that I have, and am blessed with.
Even though my mind tried to keep going back to the negative I continued to overwhelm myself with this feeling of gratitude. Of what I’ve done in just a year in my business. The testimonials, the letters, and the positive remarks.
And that’s what I wanted to write about today. I wanted to share with you what I had to learn to do. Not because I am a perfect person but because no one can make you feel a certain way without your permission. I am blessed and so grateful for the opportunity God has given me. I honesty don’t have any idea how it’s gotten this big. There will be times I mess up. There will be athletes who don’t come back. There will be relationships broken. People will talk behind my back. People will put what I’m doing down. All I can do is all I can do.
If you’re going through a tough week, I advise you, if you’re in your car, your room, your house, or a gym, to just sit down, close your eyes, and think of what you have. Think of all the times people doubted you and you prove them wrong. Think about the people in your life that are healthy and that love you. Think about all that you have and compare it to what others don’t. Because honestly, someone always has it worst.
I’ll end it with this, before you complain, understand that you have the breath to complain while others didn’t get to wake up today.
Until next time,